Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships

Assertiveness training evolved out of the idea that people live better lives if they can express what they want or need, if they can let others know how they would like to be treated.

How to handle the bullies? Just as you would in person: ignore them as much as possible; stand up to them assertively when you must; report them to authorities (for online bullies, that may mean contacting the site or internet service provider); and take the initiative by letting those who matter to you know the real story.

Directly confronting the situation is often enough to get vengeful tactics to cease.

Don’t misunderstand us here; content is not unimportant. It’s just not usually the content that hangs people up. It is anxiety, lack of skills, or the belief that “I don’t have the right to…”

Your journal might show you that you have difficulty with people in authority — that you don’t believe you have a right to speak up to them, that you can’t maintain good eye contact with them, and that you’re very anxious around such people.

The pendulum will balance itself in a short time if you persist.)

Don’t give up easily! Persistence.

The idea is simply to let the other person know how you are feeling about his or her behavior.

Leave the interviewer with a sample of your work or some other device that will cause him or her to remember you and your talents. (Don’t assume a standard résumé or application will do this job for you.)