“Your right to swing your fist ends where my nose begins.”

Pretty much the only thing we can do about our temperaments is to focus on learning all we can to get beyond the limitations we’re born with.

You can be healthier, more in charge of yourself in relationships, more confident, more capable, and more spontaneous in expressing your feelings. And you’ll likely find yourself more admired by others as well — especially if you treat them with respect and kindness.

Remember that what you write down will always be available for others to read. Exercise some judgment.

Don’t send double messages — verbally or nonverbally.

Thoughtful acts like these are not only strokes for the receiver, they also produce warm feelings for the person who reached out assertively. And not just warm feelings. Check this out: psychologist-author Daniel Goleman (2006) reports recent brain research showing that certain parts of the brain “light up” (under fMRI scanning) in special moments

The good news is that, most of the time, failure gives us an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and about life…and to figure out how to handle things better the next time.

meeting new people, going to meetings or parties, performing or working when observed by others — in short, appearing in any situation in which one might be criticized, judged, or rejected.

you can train your brain to refrain from the flame and avoid the pain!