A lesson I need to learn: It's ok to disappoint other people if you avoid disappointing yourself.

One of the biggest markers for maturity is when you become willing to disappoint the people you love in favour of what feels right to you , when you start to unravel the stories you’ve told yourself (or been told) about who you are and what you should be. These stories are the pillars that hold up the jenga-tower that is our ego. As we start to... See more

people-pleasing is a way to avoid yourself. You don’t have to sit with the discomfort of pondering hard, unanswered questions when you preoccupy yourself with satisfying others. Pleasing others makes you feel important and useful—a convenient way to avoid the hard stuff within yourself. But when you confront and integrate what you are avoiding, you... See more