You think you’re discovering yourself, excavating some essential core that was always there waiting to be found, but you’re actually constructing yourself

You think you’re discovering yourself, excavating some essential core that was always there waiting to be found, but you’re actually constructing yourself, brick by brick, choice by choice, in moments so small you don’t even notice you’re doing it until one day you look up and realize you’ve built something you didn’t mean to build and now you’re... See more

which is that identity doesn’t work like archaeology at all, rather it works like architecture. You aren’t what you are. You are what you choose.