Judging people for conformity shows your lack of compassion and gives it away that you were just like them not too long ago.
We're only really bothered by people who remind us of our recent selves. Just like teenagers can't stand kids and teenagers appear cringe to adults.
Judging people for conformity shows your lack of compassion and gives it away that you were just like them not too long ago. We're only really bothered by people who remind us of our recent selves. Just like teenagers can't stand kids and teenagers appear cringe to adults.
Sometimes it shows up as a love of conformity. A literal “selflessness.” The inclination to fit in at the expense of your individuality. A susceptibility to groupthink over individual reasoning. A fear of standing out or being disliked and a disdain for those who diverge from group conformity. A very ant-y way to be.
Tim Urban • A Game of Giants — Wait but Why
Ajinkya Wadhwa added
Monitoring this tendency in yourself can be revealing – to witness how the mind generates suspects and verdicts within seconds, and how emotionally-driven the process is. It becomes clearer that villainizing is mostly a coping mechanism, rather than a sensible way of understanding or addressing problems.
raptitude.com • Why Do We Want Problems to Be Someone’s Fault?
Supritha S added
Remember that when other people judge, it’s a projection of an issue they have with themselves, in the same way that your worst judgments of other people are projections of issues you have with yourself. In this way, you can start seeing the origins of your problems less as personal attacks against you and more as, just, you being collateral for so
... See moreBrianna Wiest • When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal
It's hard to be a conformist if you don't know what you're supposed to conform to.
bad time • How to Think for Yourself
Ajinkya Wadhwa added
It is an implicit faith in their own perfection that turns people into unbearably harsh judges.
The School of Life • How to Think More Effectively: A guide to greater productivity, insight and creativity (Work series)
An irrational and unproductive obsession with what other people think of us.
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
Ajinkya Wadhwa added
so this projections thing
that itself has the prereq of being able to notice when you have judgements
judgements are a reflection of what we fear in ourselves
we judge somebody when we don’t want to be like that — when we wouldn’t accept ourselves with that trait
Stuart Evans added
ultimately, sometimes when we judge other people, it’s just a way to not look at ourselves; a way to feel superior or sanctimonious or whatever.