Part of dating now is knowing that everyone is afraid of being cancelled or called a creep or narcissist while in the dangerous magnificent throes of sex and romance and you have to treat everyone like a traumatized animal and repeat over and over that you will not kill them for telling the truth or not knowing what they want or changing their mind... See more

Dating has shifted from primarily non-selecting situations, like real-life community or shared context, to selecting up front through profiles & photos. This has scrambled people’s intuition around the difference between filtering & selection. You used to meet someone organically and evaluate compatibility over time,... See more

Observe the mazes you create , observe the ways you flatter yourself and infantilize yourself into not seeing your own dark hand in your ego-dealings . Meticulous processes take us to simple places, yet much of that process is our own internal, ever-shifting toil - not a fact of design. Beware of the tiresome rituals you create to feel worthy and... See more