ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
there is no intimacy without true availability.
Adyashanti • Falling into Grace: Insights on the End of Suffering
I am often amazed at how couples can be up on the minute details of each other’s lives, but haven’t had a meaningful conversation in years. In fact, such transparency can often spell the end of curiosity. It’s as if this stream of questions replaces a more thoughtful and authentically interested inquiry. When the impulse to share becomes obligatory
... See moreEsther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth.
Taylor Jenkins Reid • The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo: A Novel
Remember that true intimacy is only achieved when you can allow the other person to be exactly as they are. The more your mind is preoccupied with how things should be, the more tension you will feel, and the more distance you create between you.
Imi Lo • Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity: How to manage intense emotions as a highly sensitive person - learn more about yourself with this life-changing self help book (Teach Yourself)
In our era of communication, intimacy has been redefined. No longer is it the deep knowledge and familiarity that develop over time and can be cultivated in silence. Instead, we think of intimacy primarily as a discursive process, one that involves self-disclosure, the trustful sharing of our most personal and private material—our feelings.