“relationships are inherently a two-person game, so suddenly you’re subject to someone’s process—how they communicate, how they spend their time, who they like, what they value” https://t.co/rVCIOUaxdP
“relationships are inherently a two-person game, so suddenly you’re subject to someone’s process—how they communicate, how they spend their time, who they like, what they value” https://t.co/rVCIOUaxdP
Jacob Falkovich says that single people often seek out similarity when complementarity is what makes relationships cohere long-term. It’s a great observation. But how to operationalize it? Maybe: look for someone you can’t initially understand, but also don’t feel like walking away from.
Sasha Chapin • Getting married soon
Forget what they say—instead look at who they marry.
This is a sure-fire technique, and it tells you important things about people you can’t learn any other way. A person’s choice of a spouse—or if they aren’t married, their closest lifelong partner—is much more revealing than anything they say or do in public.
This choice tells you about their own
... See moretedgioia.substack.com • My 8 Best Techniques for Evaluating Character
When you talk about people you like, or rather when you talk about that thing that happens between you —you have to transform a very complex impression into a string of words. Some relationships can easily be compressed into a compelling string of words. This is usually because they conform to some sort of trope of how romance should look. In my ex... See more
Henrik Karlsson • Looking for Alice
school terms, etc. You can observe how the relationship deals with the flow of life of both people. This information is invaluable in helping a couple see what kind of a “fit” they are.