Where am I waiting for another person to make the first move?

Play the “Shy Card” If you are shy and it makes you anxious to interact with women, use that to your advantage. Approach her and tell her that you are really shy but you knew that if you didn’t walk over and introduce yourself, you’d kick yourself later.

People expect you to mingle on your own, introduce yourself, and take the initiative to get acquainted.

Being shy just means that you’re scared to interact with other people. If you feel lonely, if you feel bad, those emotions exist for a purpose: to motivate you to improve your chances of survival and replication. You do that by aligning with other human beings who have S-and-R value. You’re designed for social dynamic interaction; your brain is har

you just keep waiting, interesting people will introduce themselves.

Maybe you’re waiting too. If you are, consider this your official wake-up call: It’s time to stop waiting to be asked and start creating.

It’s scary to talk to strangers. Guide your members into discussions by modeling what good participation looks like. Craft regular prompts and make introductions for newbies.

Instead I waited for permission. To be picked. Maybe you are, too. If you are, consider this your official wake-up call: It’s time to stop waiting to be asked and start creating.