To be effective, we must act decisively on decisions we disagree with. This may seem obvious, but it remains one of the most challenging tasks.

In thoughtful disagreement, your goal is not to convince the other party that you are right—it is to find out which view is true and decide what to do about it. In thoughtful disagreement, both parties are motivated by the genuine fear of missing important perspectives. Exchanges in which you really see what the other person is seeing and they real... See more