i can’t remember where i got all these tag if you know. i just cooked thai coconut curry and gyoza with chili oil and swept the floors and lit candles and put on a playlist and 6 friends are on their way and im sitting in front of the fireplace and its snowing outside.

things that actually helped me: - meeting myself with loving curiosity - focusing on what energizes me - warm acceptance for all thoughts/feelings - using discipline to integrate what I’m feeling - trying to embody what I want to experience &... See more

a big theme from opening sessions at @bowmansschool is the importance of paying attention to your feelings a few people have said they don't have access to them, so i thought i'd write a few quick notes on hacks i've used as a formerly severely dissociated person:

in doing shadow work, I often got confused about what part of my judgments were true perception vs. my projections onto others. a good heuristic I learned recently: the degree that you’re disturbed by someone else is the degree of the projection. In that vein, what are you most disturbed... See more

We can’t address the decline in empathy without addressing the decline in attention. Empathy requires a degree of sustained focus: Paying attention to an experience someone is sharing Recalling experiencing a similar emotional response Sitting with your own and... See more