If we don’t know how to mourn and rebuild, we are incentivized to keep the storms of our lives raging indefinitely. Staying locked in an eternal battle against the world is a good way to distract ourselves from the incredible vulnerability of existing within it.
We best serve grieving families when we become curious about, and learn how to sit with, our own pain. This is difficult, to put it mildly.
Amy Wright Glenn • Holding Space: On Loving, Dying, and Letting Go
You can’t trauma-proof life, and you can’t hurt-proof your relationships. You have to accept you will cause harm to yourself and others. But you can also fuck up, really badly, and not learn anything from it except that you fucked up. It’s the same with oppression. You don’t gain any special knowledge from being marginalized. But you do gain someth
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