At its most profound, this can be a loss that requires mourning just as surely as the death of a loved one.

The more we practice staying with the emotions that we think may overcome us, the more we trust our ability to fully inhabit grief.

Making sense of the devastation of pregnancy loss or infant death is often a lifelong process. It takes time to integrate this tremendous pain and make room for narratives of loss, as hearts are torn asunder.

You can’t trauma-proof life, and you can’t hurt-proof your relationships. You have to accept you will cause harm to yourself and others. But you can also fuck up, really badly, and not learn anything from it except that you fucked up. It’s the same with oppression. You don’t gain any special knowledge from being marginalized. But you do gain someth

Missed Opportunities: Staying Stuck The shock of the experiencing crisis and impasse—the heralds of the need for a new vision—can overwhelm us. The old issues and the memories they evoke can seem so painful that we suppress them or disassociate from them before they even become conscious. We may choose, with or without full awareness, to retreat or