Our focus is to identify our wound, to look at where it came from, and to connect to and heal the pain and fear that keep the thoughts and behaviors in place. Until we are able to do this, the patterns getting repeated in our relationships will continue to follow a very similar script.

We all know of people who have had an emotional crisis many years ago and, to this day, have not recovered. It has totally colored their life, and they have paid a big price for their lack of know-how in handling the underlying emotions.

we must look back at our recent past to find the challenges that will define our future. Working through a trauma requires understanding what happened, and why.

difficulties may arise when we use “normal life” to evade grief.

while they’re still in despair. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “Well, I need to work out all of this stuff myself before I can go and take action.” The truth is you never really work it out completely, especially with a constantly evolving crisis, where there’s always new news — like they’re digging anticipatory mass graves in Pakista