It's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
Heidi Priebex.comIt's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
It is not hard to stand behind one’s successes. But to accept responsibility for one’s failures, to accept them unreservedly as failures that are truly one’s own, that cannot be shifted somewhere else or onto something else, and actively to accept — without regard for any worldly interests, no matter how well disguised, or for well-meant advice — t... See more
Annie Dillard on unselfconsciousness, Václav Havel on failure, and a spare, stunning poem by Marie Howe
And doing that puts them at higher risk for self-esteem problems, depression, and anxiety issues, research shows. Self-blame seems to make people feel stuck with their challenges and less able to do something about them—while blaming something outside themselves empowers them to make change.
Craig Surman, Tim Bilkey, Karen Weintraub • Fast Minds
Humiliation is an experience that only egocentricity has, and from my perspective, it is the only thing that really needs the experience. It is extraordinarily important to understand that egocentricity is not capable of the brilliant clarity that is there when the illusion of a separate self is not.