It's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
It's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
If I fix myself so that I am no longer myself, then everything will be fine. My feelings will be manageable.
Geneen Roth • Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything
It’s one thing to recognize your hurt. It’s quite healthy, in fact, to see and appreciate your own emotional injuries. Especially because as adults, there is no tall, shadow-casting grown-up sitting just within earshot, ready to run to our aid the moment something hurts us. We have to be that adult for ourselves. Where this healthy self-empathy tur
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I do not mean to imply that a person never suffers through accident or through the fault of others, nor that a person is responsible for everything in life that may happen to him or her. We are not omnipotent. But self-responsibility is clearly indispensable to good self-esteem. Avoiding self-responsibility victimizes us with regard to our own life
... See moreNathaniel Branden • Honoring the Self: The Pyschology of Confidence and Respect
Adopting the belief that you must be perfect is the perfect set up for self-hate. You believe that your choices are to be perfect or to be a failure. BUT SELF-HATE SETS THE STANDARD OF PERFECTION and you can bet you are never going to meet that standard. If you did, if you met that standard, what would self-hate beat you with? What would it frighte
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In truth, blame is just another one of the negative programs that we have allowed our mind to buy because we never stopped to question it. Why must something always be someone’s “fault”? Why must the whole concept of “wrong” be introduced to the situation in the first place? Why must one of us be wrong, bad, or at fault? What seemed like a good ide
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