It's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
Heidi Priebex.comIt's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard.
After I detached and took responsibility for myself, I wondered if maybe other people weren’t the reason I hadn’t been living my own life; maybe they were just the excuse I’d needed. My destiny—my todays and tomorrows—looked pretty grim.
Melody Beattie • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated)
seeing the truth requires such an intense process of unwinding from what we thought we knew, which requires so much humility, which requires so much grace
It is not hard to stand behind one’s successes. But to accept responsibility for one’s failures, to accept them unreservedly as failures that are truly one’s own, that cannot be shifted somewhere else or onto something else, and actively to accept — without regard for any worldly interests, no matter how well disguised, or for well-meant advice —... See more
Annie Dillard on unselfconsciousness, Václav Havel on failure, and a spare, stunning poem by Marie Howe
And that understanding?
It’s painful. It’s confronting. It’s uncomfortable.
But it’s necessary. Because no real change happens until you face yourself without turning away.
It’s painful. It’s confronting. It’s uncomfortable.
But it’s necessary. Because no real change happens until you face yourself without turning away.