this is going over so many ppl's heads most social contexts are not epistemic/civilization-building contexts if you contradict openly, you disrupt the vibe, threaten people's status, & either make them clam up OR shift to offense this turns social contexts in... See more

They’re hurt, confused, and defensive. Instead of embracing your feedback, they see it as an attack. You worry about retaliation because now things are awkward. You wonder if you should have stayed silent… Here’s a better way: