13. People don’t want you to be perfect.
What they want is to feel connected to you.
13. People don’t want you to be perfect. What they want is to feel connected to you.
When we experience connection, we share bonds and commonalities but maintain our individuality. Our overattachment to the feelings we experience can distort that connection into codependency. We start thinking in terms of demands or needs. That’s when we stop feeling connected and begin feeling entangled.
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“The opposite happened. I had grown up in a world where everything was manufactured, everything was written, timed, produced perfectly. What I realized that day was people are starving for something authentic. They’ll accept you, warts and all, if that’s who you really are. Once you start lying to them, they’re not interested. We’re all alike. So t
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People don't want you to be perfect. What they want is to feel connected with you.
When we say, “I want to be attractive. I want to be beautiful,” what we must mean is that we want to feel attractive all the time and never feel ugly. Remember, what you are cannot be anything in particular, but what you are is the capacity to feel anything now. We want to be something fixed and solid in time and space, and yet when we look, we fin
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Human beings can’t help it: we need to belong.