a pattern I’ve noticed with people who try to “optimize” their lives: they (and really I mean “we”) want to do things in an extraordinary way, and figure out the best path to approach & achieve their goals but this desire to optimize usually doesn’t come from love, it comes from fear: fear of what will happen if they do things the “wrong” way or... See more

How to uncover the emotions you crave/avoid 1. Open up your notes app 2. Write a decision you’re stuck on 3. Write down what emotions you’re hoping to feel by making a “good” decision. 4. Write down what emotions you’re trying to not feel by making a “bad” decision. 5. Ask yourself: What would I do if I knew I'd feel the same way no matter wha... See more

3 indicators that you're repressing an emotion: 1) You're stuck in analysis paralysis 2) Your body is tense and contracted 3) You judge others for expressing that emotion

We’ve forgotten how to surrender. To have faith, let go, trust that it’s all working out. People are struggling most with friendships, love, community, purpose… which all require LETTING GO in a culture that loses its shit when our apps glitch for 30 seconds. Trust me… I get it. I used to grip the reins of my life until my knuckles turned white... See more

5/ You try to figure things out rather than feel through them How do you drop a hot frying pan? You feel it, and you will let go. All your bad habits are hot frying pans.