For me to the decade behind me: focus on becoming emotionally healthy. It’s one of the most important items for your wellbeing yet is never formally taught. If lucky modeled in our home. Do you attach or avert from unwanted emotions? Can you ID what you’re feeling?

if you try to separate from your emotions in order to control them or shove them aside, they’ll respond by intensifying if you try to separate from your emotions in order to care for them & give them what they need, they’ll respond by softening

It takes a brave and mature adult to speak from their heart and still function in the world. Children do speak from their hearts all the time but usually lose it by early to mid teenage years.

It's easy to imagine how anger, sadness, guilt were poorly tolerated by caregivers at an early age thereby creating anxiety in people who had to hide them but much harder to realize that joy, happiness, and excitement were just as poorly accepted and just as big a trigger of anxiety.