The desire to be special can only exist if you don’t know who you are.
imo, “knowing what you want, at which level of abstraction” is an underrated skill
I often see “I want to found a company” or “I want to write” etc
but the underlying thing is some other desire B that could have been met more directly. feeling valued, friends, ecstasy, etc
Elena Lake 🌿x.comWhat am I doing this for? Are you seeking external validation? Warren Buffett has some wise words to share here: ‘Would you rather be the world’s greatest lover, but have everyone think you’re the world’s worst lover? Or would you rather be the world’s worst lover but have everyone think you’re the world’s greatest lover?’2
Katie Lewis • Find Your 9others
When you know who you are, the optics of who you are becomes less important.
Isabel • embodying over appearing
I love what Alain de Botton says about impostor syndrome, which can also be applied to any negative story we tell about ourselves in comparison to others:
“We feel like impostors not because we are uniquely flawed, but because we fail to imagine how deeply flawed everyone else must necessarily also be beneath a more or less polished surface. We know... See more
“We feel like impostors not because we are uniquely flawed, but because we fail to imagine how deeply flawed everyone else must necessarily also be beneath a more or less polished surface. We know... See more
you must understand why you are ‘special’