@phokarlsson I think of this passage/essay of hers all the time: https://t.co/xe9sU1lx0i https://t.co/3TOCck2vqG
@phokarlsson I think of this passage/essay of hers all the time: https://t.co/xe9sU1lx0i https://t.co/3TOCck2vqG
The way our culture of offering is set up, the whole-hearted feel like they have something of worth to say to the broken-hearted, the denizens of the healthy think they know more than the sick. Around those who are in pain, people suddenly assume the role of expert: “I suggest feeling your feelings. Be grateful for the good in your life.” Why do
... See moreMari Andrew • It’s Unfair and It Doesn’t Make Sense
- The basic rule for practicing this art is the complete concentration of the listener.
- Nothing of importance must be on his mind, he must be optimally free from anxiety as well as from greed.
- He must possess a freely-working imagination which is sufficiently concrete to be expressed in words.
- He must be endowed with a capacity for empathy with another
Maria Popova • Erich Fromm’s 6 Rules of Listening: The Great Humanistic Philosopher and Psychologist on the Art of Unselfish Understanding
I thought I had been caring for him in the ways I knew how—the thousand domestic actions, the long walks, simply being there—yet if he hadn’t registered any of my actions as care, had my caring existed?
— Catherine Lacey, The Möbius Book