Lie #2: I must go along to get along. To gain a sense of acceptance, a Peacemaker will sacrifice their own desires and merge with others. Thus, while the mental fixation of a Peacemaker is all too often others’ agendas, glorifying God should be our highest priority. The good news is that merging with Jesus—losing ourselves in Him—actually leads to

I know what you might be thinking: What about that reference to the cross? How is that taking good care of myself? I don’t believe the point of the metaphor has to do with physical suffering; it has to do with the fact that consistently letting God be in control of our lives is hard and often painful. We will be religious. We will go to church. We

To be before we do, to follow the crucified—not the “Americanized”—Jesus, to embrace God’s gift of limits, to discover the treasures buried in grief and loss, to make love the core measure of maturity, to break the power of the past, and to lead out of weakness and vulnerability.