— Anaïs Nin https://t.co/QVsRQ75MN3
“I was always ashamed to take. So I gave. It was not a virtue. It was a disguise.”
— Anaïs Nin
— Anaïs Nin
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His motive for giving was not love, but fear of losing love.
John Townsend • Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
If you’re fully showing up for life, you won’t be able to tell the difference between selflessness and self-serving because it feels so good to give…or is it receiving?
Danielle LaPorte • The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms
This is the dominant motive of martyrs. They give to get love, and when they don’t get it, they feel abandoned.
John Townsend • Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
Andrea sometimes worried that the shiniest parts of her personality were actually coping mechanisms. She felt that she had spent years moving through the world “as if I was giving a hundred dollars to each person I connected with, in the hopes that on the day I needed to borrow ten dollars, I could.”