It’s probably understated how much social life is kept together by like 1 or 2 people per group who are the first movers who plan everything and ask people to go out, without which they keystone would be gone and no one would get together

Ppl underestimate how proactive you need to be to make friends as an adult For most of human history, adult friendship was a side effect of contexts where repeated casual interaction was ensured: neighborhoods, church, associations, etc These contexts have largely disintegrated, but adults... See more

Major cheat code in life: Be the one who reaches out. Text first. Call first. Plan first. Initialize first. Most people wait to be chosen. Be the chooser. Connection requires initiative. Friendship requires effort. Love requires action. Stop waiting to be picked. Start picking. Initiative is attractive.