Nowadays everybody is so scared of life and of risk and of anything that comes from it, that we've developed brittle shells around ourselves which make us rather lonely beings.
— Iain McGilchrist, The Matter with Things Dialogues Episode 20 [YouTube]
Theatwitter.comNowadays everybody is so scared of life and of risk and of anything that comes from it, that we've developed brittle shells around ourselves which make us rather lonely beings. — Iain McGilchrist, The Matter with Things Dialogues Episode 20 [YouTube]
Avoidance always has its reasons. The organism is trying to protect itself, ensure its well-being, and preserve self-esteem—but in the wrong way. Since emotions, negative and positive, express our assessment of the significance of different aspects of reality for ourselves, when we bury feelings and emotion we also bury ourselves. This is what it m
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“No one cares. I’m all alone. There is no help. I have to do it all myself.” They believe that the only safe attitude, then, is to stay guarded and suspicious, and the only safe action is to stay in control of everything and one-up on everyone around them.