Don’t lie. Or if you’re going to lie, don’t lie to yourself. The most dangerous lies are the ones we tell ourselves. We don’t want to look at the role our own behaviors play in our failings (in our successes, sure), so we tend, by my observation, to claim responsibility for our wins and blame the losses on conditions beyond our control or on the fa

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There are infinite quotidian human experiences ripe for interpreting: putting off housework, caring about who I sit next to at a dinner party, struggling to get dressed. They stack up every day. I’m particularly fond of using them to draw ungenerous conclusions: I’m shallow, selfish, lazy, dishonest. I’ve trained myself away from defending my goodn... See more