Winnicott on the Qualities of a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Relationship
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Winnicott on the Qualities of a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Relationship
This imaginative interpenetration of experience is necessary for the greatest challenge of consciousness — understanding what it is like to be another. Without it, there can be no love, for we cannot love whom we do not understand — then we are pseudo-loving a projection. A sign of healthy love, therefore, is the ability to be reliable and responsi... See more
Donald Winnicott • Article
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The psychoanalyst Philip M. Bromberg wrote, “Health is the ability to stand in the spaces between realities without losing any of them.
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
Ideally, if our caretakers are present, attuned to us, and lovingly meet our needs, we learn that dependency on others is safe.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
“The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love — whether we call it friendship or family or romance — is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light. Gentle work. Steadfast work. Life-saving work in those moments when life and shame and sorrow occlude our own light from our view, but there is still a clear-eyed loving person to b... See more
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~ The most familiar models of who we are—father and daughter, doctor and patient, “helper” and “helped”—often turn out to be major obstacles to the expression of our caring instincts; they limit the full measure of what we have to offer one another.
Ram Dass • How Can I Help?: Stories and Reflections on Service
all good lovers are in a way good psychotherapists: that is, the success of modern romantic relationships critically depends on the degree to which both partners can, at crucial moments, adopt a therapeutic attitude toward the other’s compulsions, blind spots, rages, and eccentricities.
Alain de Botton • A Therapeutic Journey: Lessons from The School of Life
