Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
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Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
Rachel Ooi added
why it's hard to make friends as an adult:
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
Patricia Mou • Tweet
Brandy Cerne and added
Were friendships always so fragile? I suspect not. But we now live in an era of radical individual freedoms. All of us may begin at the same starting line as young adults, but as soon as the gun goes off, we’re all running in different directions; there’s little synchrony to our lives. We have kids at different rates (or not at all); we pair off at... See more
Jennifer Senior • It’s Your Friends Who Break Your Heart
Alex Wittenberg added
When you’re in middle age, which I am (mid-middle age, to be precise—I’m now 52), you start to realize how very much you need your friends. They’re the flora and fauna in a life that hasn’t had much diversity, because you’ve been so busy—so relentlessly, stupidly busy—with middle-age things: kids, house, spouse, or some modern-day version of Zorba’
... See moreAlex Dobrenko and added
Alex Wittenberg and added
The unhappy truth of the matter is that it is normal for friendships to fade, even under the best of circumstances. The real aberration is keeping them. In 2009, the Dutch sociologist Gerald Mollenhorst published an attention-grabber of a study that basically showed we replace half of our social network over the course of seven years, a reality we ... See more
Jennifer Senior • It’s Your Friends Who Break Your Heart
Alex Wittenberg added
Like many millennials, Ury is experiencing what’s becoming an aspirational lifestyle: living within walking distance of close friends. As more people work remotely, friends, rather than offices, are becoming the central compass around which people are seeking to orient their lives. Online, friendship is having a big moment: Videos on social media a... See more
Zoë Bernard • It shouldn’t be so hard to live near your friends
Alex Burns added
Why do we always remember our childhood friends? Why do so many people look back on college with fondness? Why are so many married couples nostalgic for those hardscrabble early years, with the crappy jobs and tiny apartment and borrowed baby clothes? It’s because, while those environments were materially constrained (we had fewer choices), they yi... See more