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Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
We don't always believe things because they are correct. Sometimes we believe things because they make us look good to the people we care about.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Facts don’t change our minds. Friendship does.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
The way to change people’s minds is to become friends with them, to integrate them into your tribe, to bring them into your circle. Now, they can change their beliefs without the risk of being abandoned socially.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Perhaps it is not difference, but distance that breeds tribalism and hostility. As proximity increases, so does understanding. I am reminded of Abraham Lincoln's quote, “I don't like that man. I must get to know him better.” Facts don't change our minds. Friendship does.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Silence is death for any idea. An idea that is never spoken or written down dies with the person who conceived it. Ideas can only be remembered when they are repeated. They can only be believed when they are repeated.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Clear’s Law of Recurrence: The number of people who believe an idea is directly proportional to the number of times it has been repeated during the last year—even if the idea is false.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
The brilliant Japanese writer Haruki Murakami once wrote, “Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
False beliefs can be useful in a social sense even if they are not useful in a factual sense. For lack of a better phrase, we might call this approach “factually false, but socially accurate.” When we have to choose between the two, people often select friends and family over facts.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Arguments are like a full frontal attack on a person’s identity. Reading a book is like slipping the seed of an idea into a person’s brain and letting it grow on their own terms.
James Clear • Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
Your time is better spent championing good ideas than tearing down bad ones. Don't waste time explaining why bad ideas are bad. You are simply fanning the flame of ignorance and stupidity.