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Why Do We Want Problems to Be Someone’s Fault?
innocent victims – when something goes wrong, it’s always because of what someone else did. Others of us have the opposite tendency: we are all too aware of the negative consequences of our own actions. In the face of this, others’ contributions seem insignificant. An “absorber” tends to feel responsible for everything.
Bruce Patton • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong. — H. L. Mencken
Joi Ito • The Social Labs Revolution
Remember that the problem is rarely about someone begin a villain. It's almost always the system. When you find someone that's frustrating you, breathe. Assume they're trying to help you avoid a cliff you can't see or are under hidden constraints. Be curious, empathetic, and seek to understand.
Alex Komoroske • Coordination Headwind - How Organizations Are Like Slime Molds
We live in a blame culture—we want to know whose fault it is and how they’re going to pay. In our personal, social, and political worlds, we do a lot of screaming and finger-pointing, but we rarely hold people accountable. How could we? We’re so exhausted from ranting and raving that we don’t have the energy to develop meaningful consequences and e
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Focusing on blame is a bad idea because it inhibits our ability to learn what’s really causing the problem and to do anything meaningful to correct it.
Roger Fisher • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
If you look for problems, you will find them. Philosopher Andrew Taggart calls this tendency “the problematization of the world.”4 As he argues, “The world writ large is not a problem to be solved.” Despite this, we diagnose endless problems in our lives and the world at large and are presented with books, ideas, playbooks, influencers, and produc
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