Saved by Supritha S and
Why Do We Want Problems to Be Someone’s Fault?
Frequent lamenting about how bad things are (in politics or relationships or other culture gripes) is mostly a way for people to avoid responsibility for what they can change. If you constantly repeat that everything is bad, it lets your ego off the hook for doing nothing.
Remember that the problem is rarely about someone begin a villain. It's almost always the system. When you find someone that's frustrating you, breathe. Assume they're trying to help you avoid a cliff you can't see or are under hidden constraints. Be curious, empathetic, and seek to understand.
Alex Komoroske • Coordination Headwind - How Organizations Are Like Slime Molds
Why must something always be someone’s “fault”? Why must the whole concept of “wrong” be introduced to the situation in the first place? Why must one of us be wrong, bad, or at fault? What seemed like a good idea at the time may not have turned out well. That’s all. Unfortunate events may have just happened.
David R. Hawkins • Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender
Talking about blame distracts us from exploring why things went wrong and how we might correct them going forward.