Secret 3 A note from a college friend, via Facebook: “Loved the piece. Struck a chord. These days it seems like I want to Do It all the time and [husband’s name redacted] never wants to. I don’t know what to do. Am seriously thinking about having an affair but HOW???? How do you even do that?”

Recent data published in the Journal of Marriage and Family suggests that couples in which men do more than a third of the household work have more sex than those who do less, and that these relatively egalitarian couples are the only ones to have experienced an increase in sexual frequency during three decades over which sex within marriage has

But of course, many higher-drive men and women are not married to spouses who want a reasonable but lower amount of sex. Many are married to spouses with almost no sex drive at all, and we will be discussing that further in the next chapter.