who are you when you’re not pleasing anyone?
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who are you when you’re not pleasing anyone?
But with that feeling of safety comes exhaustion too, she described feeling “worn out and sort of scattered”. She has had to reduce her hours at work because the pressure to wear a mask all day every day became too much.
Hannah Louise Belcher • Taking Off the Mask: Practical Exercises to Help Understand and Minimise the Effects of Autistic Camouflaging
We might ‘dissociate’ and do the opposite: we check out, numb ourselves, engage in escapism, or fixate harder on connecting with others. In a state of dissociation, it is hard to advocate for our needs, our boundaries, and our limits. In addition, many of us have excellent auto-pilot functions and masking skills for when we dissociate, which can so... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
It seems to me now that it’s not that I fail to manage the simplest challenges, but that I pass too well. I am addicted to passing, and not just in the sense of going unnoticed. I want more than that. I want to be well adjusted to the point of inspiration, hyper-normal. I want to be everyone’s favourite. I don’t care about the cost, the way it brea
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