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what's a good commitment?
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We get stuck in a holding pattern when we believe there’s only one path, or two, instead of those millions of paths that fork and diverge based on our individual strengths and characters. In some worlds you’re happy and curious and feed the parts that make you fully and idiosyncratically yourself. The parts that seek beauty and truth and goodness a
... See moreAnother strategy, and a popular one, is to not commit to anything. To hold out for better options, wait until the last minute, move restlessly from one thing to the next, and never commit to anything that could trap you. It feels like freedom but is, in fact, just another cage. When you are surrounded with unlimited opportunities, inaction seems li
... See moreAs I make hundreds of small choices throughout the day, I’m building a life—but at one and the same time, I’m closing off the possibility of countless others, forever. (The original Latin word for “decide,” decidere, means “to cut off,” as in slicing away alternatives; it’s a close cousin of words like “homicide” and “suicide.”) Any finite life—eve
... See moretaken such vows—but we choose to live like monks anyway, rooting ourselves to a home or a career and using the future as a kind of phony ritual that justifies the present. In this way, we end up spending (as Thoreau put it) “the best part of one’s life earning money in order to enjoy a questionable liberty during the least valuable part of it.” We’
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