it means that love is not made entirely of back rubs, but it must include back rubs, just as a wedding cake is more than merely food, but it must also be food.

could choose to be certain, or you could choose to be alive. And the only

“Believe what you believe, my dear, but believe gently. Believe compassionately. Believe with curiosity. Believe with humility. And don’t trust the arrogance of certainty. I mean, my goodness, Elizabeth, if you want the gods to really laugh at you, then by all means call it your forever home

Maybe the way you think and feel is true and honest, or maybe it was just hardwired into you by evolution, or programmed into you by growing up in a patriarchy, or socialized into you by living in your particular racial caste, or implanted in you by the many ways your parents screwed you up, or maybe it’s because you’ve been seduced by propaganda,

Don’t you find the symbolism delicious? Don’t you find it all so beautiful?”

they both see how each user seems to have the support of a hundred thousand other real people, which reassures them that they are, respectively, correct;

That’s the thing about assholes—they are assholes unreflectively.

“A cop finds this guy crawling around a lamppost one night. The cop says, ‘What are you doing?’ and the guy says, ‘Looking for my keys.’ The cop says, ‘You lost them under the lamppost?’ and the guy says, ‘No, but this is where the light

“People usually look for new relationships that are antidotes to whatever problems they had in previous relationships,” Kyle said, “but in so doing we often end up, paradoxically, in relationships that have exactly those same problems.”