Are women prone to getting stuck? Is it a design flaw? No. This phenomenon points to the friction between wanting to move and being afraid to.

What You Collect Isn’t Just Valuable—It’s Sacred

not to “finish” a book, but to see what it’s like to make that kind of creative expression part of your life?

Bottom line, sustainable satisfaction and pleasure and fulfillment, the kind we say we want, rarely comes from a thing you do once. An obsession with firsts can be a block toward momentum.

It’s worth looking at your bucket list (if you have one) to understand what you think is worth doing once, or more than once, and why. Meaning: Are you using a bucket list to hide behind a no-stakes, just-trying, I’m not really here kind of way? Do you believe you have to be really good, scary good, at one thing to make it worth doing?

Having a fixed mindset or tunnel vision around anything—passion, an industry, an idea of what you’re good at and not (I have to work in fashion or I’m bad at money) may make it tougher for you to try, to keep going, when you face a challenge, not to mention less likely to seek or discover other things that would be just as, if not more, exciting

Those who believed passion was inherent or fixed were also more likely to anticipate “boundless motivation.” Yup. They thought their passion alone would motivate them for life. Um, no. In one study, college students watched a fun,

But to believe that this means anything worth doing should come easily, immediately, and fully formed is perhaps one of the most limiting beliefs of all—and it doesn’t hold up well in the face of challenge.

The desire is to believe that if and when you discover a talent, or someone discovers it in you, maybe, just maybe, you will know that that’s what you’re supposed to be doing. That’s the appeal of “I wasn’t even trying and I crushed it” mentality.