Two Kinds of Judgement

If you regard someone judging you as a customer instead of a judge, the expectation of fairness goes away.

There are two different ways people judge you. Sometimes judging you correctly is the end goal. But there's a second much more common type of judgement where it isn't. We tend to regard all judgements of us as the first type. We'd probably be happier if we realized which are and which aren't.

Our early training and our self-centeredness combine to make us believe that every judgement of us is about us. In fact most aren't.