why it's hard to make friends as an adult:
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
why it's hard to make friends as an adult: where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
You'll meet people who share your common interests and bond over your shared goals
Cal Newport • How to Win at College: Surprising Secrets for Success from the Country's Top Students
Having idiosyncratic interests that grow in complexity means that if you pursue them too far you will end up obsessed with things that no one else around you cares about
A Blog Post Is a Very Long and Complex Search Query to Find Fascinating People and Make Them Route Interesting Stuff to Your Inbox
- You need shared contexts and shared interests. The reason why it’s difficult to make friends as an adult is because where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces), there's a lack of shared interests. Where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc), there's a lack of shared context. A place
Patricia Mou • Introducing "The Fourth Place" & Why "Third Places" Have Fallen Short on Their Promise
a lot of celebrated qualities are incompatible with each other. Ambition often comes with discontent; focus with rigidity; contentment with complacency. A couple that does everything together probably has fewer close friends. A social butterfly might have a messy house. These are crude examples, but it’s worth remembering that we all have to assess... See more
if you like thinking, it’s important to be around people who also enjoy thinking/ideas, otherwise you have to constantly empty your mind to fill it up with the shared context needed to relate to others.. this often ends up being emptier topics like people, small talk, gossip, etc