why it's hard to make friends as an adult:
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
why it's hard to make friends as an adult: where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
You need shared contexts and shared interests. The reason why it’s difficult to make friends as an adult is because where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests. Where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context. A place li... See more
Encountering for the first time communities in the real world founded on ideas, I began to realize that I had always felt what my friend David Perell calls “intellectual loneliness.” It’s a feeling that almost no one in your social circles shares the same passion for ideas as you. I realized I had always felt that there was no one I could share my ... See more
Tiago Forte • Not Found
it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other, said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of N... See more
Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
Any skill or attribute you claim makes you unique—”I’m really funny”, “I’m good at shining shoes”, “I’m an attentive lover”—you can always find someone else better than you on that dimension. They’re funnier, fitter, richer, sexier, smarter, or better at shining shoes than you are. We can’t help but desperately compete in this unwinnable game of ha... See more
billmei.net • Friendships Form via Shared Context, Not Shared Activities
my new working theory on the loneliness crisis is to stop aiming to find friends. to make friends assumes an end goal.
rather, aim to achieve the feeling of connectedness.
a life filled with connectedness is someone who looks up when they walk around. they smile at the people