We mask our efforts to control another person by appearing helpful.

There are many definitions for codependency but for us it generally means we look outward for love and security from others; however, we secretly feel incapable of being loved and we never feel completely safe no matter what the other person does for us.

Of all the issues facing adult children, control is an issue that seems to take more time and patience to lessen. As children growing up in dysfunctional and sometimes dangerous homes, we had to stay in control of our emotions and thoughts to survive. To show emotion or make the “wrong” move could mean harm or humiliation. Letting go of control can

“I humbly ask you to: “Remove my defect of ___________________________.

There are other forms of adult child insanity, isolation, and manipulation that we engage in, which usually leaves us feeling abandoned, angry, or confused. Yet, we try again, repeating the same mistakes. Fueled by fear, our false self discounts real avenues of help. The false self chooses to reapply old thinking and behaving that guarantees the sa

The Higher Power is patient as it seeks to help the adult child find wholeness and integration of a divided self.

We unintentionally passed on our family insanity or distorted thinking.

We mask our efforts to control another person by appearing helpful.

1. I am willing to consider releasing some control in my life. 2) I am willing to call someone when I feel the urge to control another’s thoughts or actions. 3) I believe that real choice comes from the God of my understanding rather than my illusions of control and orderliness. 4) I desire real choice and discernment. 5) I surrender my family to God