A major problem with building competency is that the Dictator Within judges us so harshly for falling short of what it thinks our progress should be. It also convinces us that success is an end state, rather than an ongoing process of learning. In the same way that it can tell us that we will enjoy playing the guitar once we are in a band, it can f

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People who trust themselves trust themselves because they’re honest with themselves. More specifically, they’re honest about what they need to restrict themselves from or altogether avoid. We think that the more we trust ourselves, the fewer boundaries we’ll need; the opposite is true. The people who trust themselves the most are the ones who honor

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Trusting yourself looks like finding the courage to override the constant temptations to minimize the small but meaningful steps you’re taking to honor your intuition. Trusting yourself looks like depersonalizing setbacks. Trusting yourself looks like realizing that just because the thing you felt so certain about changed, that doesn’t mean you wer

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