“The dominance hierarchy, the competitiveness and glory, certainly become foolish. There is certainly a shifting of values about what’s basic and what’s not basic, what’s important and what’s not important. I think if it were possible for us to die and be resurrected, it might then be possible for more people to have this post-mortem life.”8

The anxious-attachment dimension reflects a concern about being rejected and abandoned and is the product of beliefs about whether others will be there for you in times of need. The avoidant-attachment dimension has less to do with a sense of safety and more to do with how you regulate your emotions in response to stress—whether you use others as a

altruistic, creative, open, authentic, accepting, independent, and brave.

Maslow viewed development as often involving a two-steps-forward, one-step-back dynamic,20 in which we are continually returning to our basic needs to draw strength, learn from our hardships, and work toward greater integration of our whole being.

While security is primarily concerned with defense and protection, exploration is primarily motivated by curiosity, discovery, openness, expansion, understanding, and the creation of new opportunities for growth and development.

the awareness of his mortality actually heightened his own personal experience of transcendence.

Transcendence, which rests on a secure foundation of both security and growth, is a perspective in which we can view our whole being from a higher vantage point with acceptance, wisdom, and a sense of connectedness with the rest of humanity.

Deficiency needs, which Maslow referred to as “D-needs,” are motivated by a lack of satisfaction, whether it’s the lack of food, safety, affection, belonging, or self-esteem. The “D-realm” of existence colors all of our perceptions and distorts reality, making demands on a person’s whole being: “Feed me! Love me! Respect me!”28

Distinguishing between “defensive-wisdom” and “growth-wisdom,” Maslow argued that the Being-Realm of existence (or B-realm, for short) is like replacing a clouded lens with a clear one.