• I make excuses for the bad behavior of others.

I am highly attuned to the shifting feeling states of others.

• I fear judgment, rejection, or criticism in any intimate relationship.

I’m not okay unless other people are okay.

• I engage in passive-aggressive communication, or use sarcasm, or silence, or say I’m fine when I’m not.

• Rather than saying, “I don’t like that,” I act like it’s okay, or go silent to avoid conflict.

• I often say yes when I want to say no.

• I feel responsible for “fixing” what’s wrong in someone else’s life.

conditions. In adulthood, that could translate to, “I’d rather do it myself.”