This Is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.

Fixing a small, straight smile on your face while looking sideways in front of one person and the knowledge that at least a third person sees you do this is shame. You know the expression I’m talking about, right? If you had to add words to it, they would be “Ohmygod, ohmygod, who is this person?” What this says is, “You are inferior to me. And the

That’s one of the weird things about some obsessions. To get over them, you have to give them up, let them go, release them, truly not need or want them anymore. Then there it is. It’s yours. If you even want it.

This is what I’m saying: you hate your life. But you don’t know what life is. Life is too huge for you to possibly hate. If you hate life, you haven’t seen enough of it.

We enter therapy and discuss our past. We formulate opinions about what happened. We create a rich, detailed world. In therapy or on our own, we focus our attention on something that no longer exists in order to understand or have perspective or acknowledge or own what has happened. And only after we decide this understanding or recognition has tak

But here’s the thing: there are some things in life from which you do not heal. The tunnel never ends. There is no other side of it. If your child dies? You will never heal.

As it happens, we human beings are able to live just fine with many holes of many sizes and shapes. And pleasure, love, compassion, fulfillment—these things do not leak out of holes of any size. So we can be filled with holes and loss and wide expanses of unhealed geography—and we can also be excited by life and in love and content at the exact sam

Need is the focused, highly fortified form of want. Need is want that has been transformed into something closer to certainty by decision and commitment. When you need air, you get it. When you need water, there’s no question about what you’re going to do: you’re going to get a drink even if that means grabbing the garden hose by the neck. Need can

The first thing you should do is take a look at your life and then, if necessary, get out of your own way.

All I had to do to reach this truth was to ask myself how I felt about the person, in real time, and then listen for the answer.

To be successful at not drinking, a person needs to occupy the space in life drinking once filled with something more rewarding than the comfort and escape of alcohol. This is the thing you have to find. You might not. Most alcoholics won’t.