And number three, we begin to train ourselves to be with the tension and discomfort that arises as we approach the edge of our comfort zone.

love having nice things. I love feeling comfortable and secure. And I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I also love feeling like I’m somebody special. I invite you to come clean and admit that you like some version of these things, too. Because as we’re going to explore further in this book, it’s natural. It’s who we are. It’s why we place so much

What would make it energizing? What would make it playful?

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convincing ourselves that the next step is reckless or dangerous is a highly effective way to rationalize staying in our comfort zone for years.

When we get stuck in protecting, pleasing, and proving, we can get rigid about finding “the right path” in life. But if we’re clear that we’re ultimately cultivating greater freedom, aliveness, love, and peace, then there are many, many ways for us to allow these experiences into our lives. Our “success” is no longer determined by what we achieved

You see, a majority of the outcomes we list are unconscious theories. They’re guesses. They’re assumptions. When we imagine accomplishing an outcome we’re really just imagining the experience — the feeling — we ultimately want to have.

If we’re thinking we need to be confident or passionate before we get going, let’s ask ourselves, “What action would I take if I believed I was ready?”

The “right time” to do the stuff that strengthens us is when we’re challenged. When we’re drained or stressed is exactly when we’ve got to lean into it. Which is easier said than done, I know. The good news is that a little bit every day goes a very long way. And — contrary to what our rat-racer, finish-line-obsessed mentality wants us to believe —