He had become so habituated to protect his money that he forgot what the money was for — so he could park his truck and go enjoy the freedom and aliveness and peace and camaraderie that comes from spending a morning playing in the waves. He was so unaware of the importance of his experience that he was willing to give it away for a mere thirty-five

Bottom line: the experiences of freedom, aliveness, love, and peace I’m talking about aren’t something we have to deprive or punish ourselves to earn.

When We Don’t Know What’s Important, Everything Seems Important

Pick an area of your life where you feel some friction. Where are things feeling like a grind? Where are things feeling boring? What are you wanting to escape? Grab something to write on, and jot down the choices — the actions you take every day or week to create a specific outcome. The meetings or the drive or the networking gatherings or whatever

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regardless of the story we tell ourselves and others, the lives we have today are most likely a product of answering these three basic questions: What do I do so that I don’t feel uncomfortable? What do I do so that I don’t lose time, energy, or money? What do I do so that I don’t look bad?

Number 3: “What do I do so that I don’t look like a loser?”

In order to avoid this discomfort — this tension — we’re creating a life or relationship or career based on what we think we can get. In order to minimize risk, we play it safe and only see the opportunities we believe are a sure thing. But think about it — how much of our lives can truly be a sure thing? Very, very little. Which means that when we

Back in the good old barefoot nomadic days when we were eating twigs and bark and smelling like Yoda’s asscrack, we were dependent upon each other to stay alive. Which meant that if we did something stupid and got kicked out of the group, we would die. So nature made sure that our brains evolved accordingly, and this primitive fear of being cast ou