There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate

And, of course, we fail to see that almost everyone sees themselves as victims and others as victimizers. And we continue to victimize one another. Who of us will stop?

GUIDE: The fact that we see it as phony and ridiculous tells us that egocentricity is doing the judging. From a centered place, you would never see loving yourself as phony and ridiculous. Only ego would add those labels. Calling it phony is self-hate. It’s ego trying to get you to believe that loving yourself is an experience that you don’t know.

GUIDE: Wanting to do something and doing something are two entirely different things. There’s no need to act just because you have a feeling. STUDENT: But what if I want to act? GUIDE: Your questions come from a belief that you are inherently bad, and that if you don’t control yourself, you’ll be bad. When you realize that you are goodness and let

TAKING BLAME BUT NOT CREDIT If something goes well, it’s a gift from God. If it goes badly, it’s all your fault. And even if you do take a little credit for something, you can always avoid feeling

If the voice is not loving,

The best reason to look at self-hate is that self-hate gets in the way of being able to do spiritual practice. It gets in the way of finding that place of deep compassion within ourselves that is the largest part of spiritual practice.

those recommendations, people often say they’re afraid that if they are that kind to themselves they will become egocentric and self-indulgent. But we already are egocentric and self-indulgent! Being kind to ourselves is the way not to be egocentric and self-indulgent!

Anytime a voice is talking to you that is not talking with love and compassion, don’t believe it!

Do not confuse with compassionate. A compassionate person may be what we call nice and polite, but compassion does not try to be nice and polite. Nice and polite come from conditioning. Compassion comes from the Heart and our shared connectedness.