There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate

And, of course, we fail to see that almost everyone sees themselves as victims and others as victimizers. And we continue to victimize one another. Who of us will stop?

Spiritual Practice Doesn’t Begin Until the Beatings Stop. I’m suggesting that you stop the beatings. Many spiritual teachers suggest that hatred is not the answer. They say things about love, forgiveness, generosity and gratitude. They hardly talk about beating people and hating people and this sort of thing. They say, “Now, folks, this is the dire

Compassion, No Matter What STUDENT: Lately, I’ve been saying, “Okay, I have this need and I’m going to stand up for myself. I’m going to ask for what I want.” So I do it, and my worst fears come true. People don’t like what I said or did. My need is rejected. Then self-hate comes in and says, “I warned you!” But another voice that I haven’t heard b

We have no control but we think we should have. Letting go of the illusion of control will not make you more vulnerable, it will make you more relaxed, peaceful, open, receptive, joyful, calm. Children have no control and don’t think they should have.

We often think of the battering cycle happening between a man and a woman, but it can happen with any two or more people. In the form of self-hate, it requires only oneself. In the classic situation, a man and a woman get together because they want to make their lives better. He will take care of her, and she will be supportive to enable him to tak

But the Good Meditator patiently stayed with it, and finally the student was able to see that part of herself. Moral of the story: No matter what anybody says, don’t give up on yourself.

But the Good Meditator patiently stayed with it, and finally the student was able to see that part of herself. Moral of the story: No matter what anybody says, don’t give up on yourself.

STUDENT: I think that’s what it would eventually come to. If I don’t do my work, and don’t make money, then I won’t be able to pay for my house, and I won’t have any food. And if I follow that along far enough, I realize that I believe that all those things on the list are designed to keep me alive. And if I don’t do them the ultimate consequence i

BLAMING OTHERS Self-hating and “other” hating are the same thing. Whether you are hateful toward others or hating yourself directly, it’s self-hate. You are always the recipient.