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There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
There’s nothing to do but let go of the idea that you have any control.
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
Experiences do move along quickly when we’re present and not resisting. It’s when we stop being present and get stuck in something that we can drag it out forever.
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
It’s No Wonder We Feel Inadequate Self-hate encourages you to judge and then beats you for judging. When you judge someone else it’s simply self-hate projected outward.
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
A sinking feeling of “I’ve done something wrong” and a feeling of panic, “What’s the right thing to do now to fix it?” Buying anything for anyone else but never anything for myself.
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
Self-Hate Accounting System In the self-hate accounting system: -- I add up everything I do. I subtract everything everyone else doesn’t do. -- I add up everything everyone else gets. I subtract everything that I don’t get. -- I add up all the luck everybody else has. I subtract all the luck I don’t have. -- I add up all the advantages everybody
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bottom line is Don’t Have Needs. Once we turn our attention outward, most of us never address the original unmet need we were traumatized into abandoning. Most of us don’t know that it is that original unmet need that has been controlling our lives. The need? To be loved and accepted exactly as we are. Eventually it dawns on us that we can’t
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
If you take the most frightening thing in the world and invite it in, put your arms around it, and sit still with it,
Cheri Huber • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
were saying, “You can’t do this, you’re going to be sick.” But it wasn’t true, even the physical cues I was getting. That was an extremely valuable experience. Later when I was in labor, it was true again: As long as I stayed with every breath, I was all right. And that showed me where freedom is. GUIDE: Yes. If you went to another conference and
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At some point, now or later, you’re going to have to risk BEING YOU in order to find out who that really is. Not the conditioned you, not the “you” you’ve been taught to believe you are, who you really are. And this perhaps will be the scariest, the most loving, and the most rewarding thing you have ever done.