The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
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The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
Part of that success derived from her artistic talent, but even more came from paying attention to details and anticipating the needs of her clients. In this way, her tendency to worry served her well, because she rarely missed a beat in her customer service and job fulfillment.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
When a mother worries about her children, even when they are grown, it’s touching and normal to some degree. But if you are forty-five years old and your mother tells you to make sure to dress warmly because it’s cold outside, or greets you with a worried face and asks if you are feeling all right whenever you see her, it can have the opposite effe
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The first psychological reward of worry is that it gives us an illusion of control. Worrying about something can partially satisfy a sense that we are controlling or doing something about whatever is worrying us.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
The trouble is that this kind of worry is almost always distressing and uncomfortable, and sometimes it can even become obsessive, taking on a life of its own. Even more troublesome is that when we worry this way, our worries can act as autosuggestions. They can become significant, even dominant portions of our mental focus throughout the day, taki
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Her problem, she told me, was that she “could never turn her mind off,” and she felt stressed and exhausted all the time.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
When we are angry or scared, it’s easy to connect to other angry or scared thoughts and feelings, but harder to connect to those that may be calm or forgiving. This phenomenon is called state-dependency.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
When we become aware of our thoughts and feelings, we can make choices about which ones we focus on, which ones we energize, which ones we keep, and which ones we let go of or minimize.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
We might say that wisdom tends to appear in the spaces between our thoughts, and making those spaces bigger by quieting and slowing the thinking mind allows more room for our wisdom to emerge.
Martin Rossman • The Worry Solution: Using breakthrough brain science to turn stress and anxiety into confidence and happiness
Feeling like a frightened child, we may not have good access to the wisdom, courage, creativity, or power we’ve developed as adults.