The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
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The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
This is the habit energy in us. When we suffer, we always blame the other person for having made us suffer. We do not realize that anger is, first of all, our business.
Thich Nhat Hanh • Anger: Buddhist Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
Those we stone with our insults and shaming and denunciation are ourselves. Understand a person’s backstory, and you will realize, “That could have been me.” None of us are made of better or worse stuff than the rest. We all are life, doing what life does in the circumstances it is in. Yet neither is anyone a helpless victim of circumstance. That’s... See more
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Jim Dethmer and Diana Chapman. Though most people will typically blame other people or circumstances in their life when they are unhappy, Buddhists believe that we are the cause of our own suffering. We can’t control the fact that bad things are going to happen, but it’s how we react to them that really matters, and that we can learn to control. Ev
... See moreTimothy Ferriss • Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World
Self-accountability is the strength of realizing that even though you don’t control everything, you do control how you respond to everything. It’s a mindset that empowers you to act and not just react to whatever life throws at you. It transforms obstacles into opportunities for learning and growth. It means realizing that the way you respond to ha
... See moreShane Parrish • Clear Thinking
Our work is not to view ourselves as “someone who was hurt” or to cling to long-lasting resentment toward those we perceive as having hurt us. Instead, it is to gently uncover and understand what prevents our heart from fully opening, what limits the free expression of our true nature, what holds us back from living the life we came here to live.