The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
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The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
There’s a slogan in the mahayana1 teachings that says, “Drive all blames into oneself.” The essence of this slogan is, “When it hurts so bad, it’s because I am hanging on so tight.” It’s not saying that we should beat ourselves up. It’s not advocating martyrdom. What it implies is that pain comes from holding so tightly to having it our own way and
... See moreThe second arrow may take the form of judgment (“how could I have been so stupid?”), fear (“what if the pain doesn’t go away?”), or anger (“I hate that I’m in pain. I don’t deserve this!”).