The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
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The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault": Finding Freedom When We are Caught in Self-Blame
To make peace with what’s out of your control
What happens if I ignore it and do nothing?
Should I learn a lesson from this, or just move on?
How can I blame no one, and see this as nobody’s fault?
How can I be OK no matter what happens?
What happens if I ignore it and do nothing?
Should I learn a lesson from this, or just move on?
How can I blame no one, and see this as nobody’s fault?
How can I be OK no matter what happens?
The parable of the second arrow is a well-known Buddhist story about dealing with suffering more skilfully. It is said the Buddha once asked a student,
‘If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful? If the person is struck by a second arrow, is it even more painful?’
He then went on to explain,
‘In life, we can’t always control the first arrow.... See more
‘If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful? If the person is struck by a second arrow, is it even more painful?’
He then went on to explain,
‘In life, we can’t always control the first arrow.... See more
The second arrow - Mindfulness Meditation
Buddha says we cannot get rid of the First arrow, but we can control what we do with our second arrow. Our Second arrow is the response to the pain of the first arrow and in most cases, it is plain “RESISTANCE” to this pain.