The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
My grief says that I dared to love, that I allowed another to enter the very core of my being and find a home in my heart. Grief is akin to praise; it is how the soul recounts the depth to which someone has touched our lives. To love is to accept the rites of grief.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Without this awareness and willingness to be shaped by life, we remain caught in the adolescent strategies of avoidance and heroic striving.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
sorrow carves riverbeds in our soul, deepening us as it flows in and out of our lives.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close. Alone and together, death and loss affect us all.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
After that, I posed a second question: “What will you have to sacrifice in order to honor that vow?”
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Without an adequate time in the ashes tending the loss, sorrow mutates into symptoms of depression, anxiety, dullness, and despair. We must honor the needs of the soul during times of grief.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Attunement is a particular quality of attention, wedded with affection, offered by someone we love and trust. This deep attention is what enables us to make painful experiences tolerable. We feel held and comforted, reassured and safe.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
we feel the growing weight of unattended sorrows. This is often misdiagnosed as depression.
Francis Weller • The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Undigrsted grief is a warped reaction if left this way overtime this reaction becomes a warped habit to any type of sorrowthis warped habit shapes how we face the world creating blind spotsex my telation to sales hated godbyes as small deathexcelled at starting anf keeping relationship but the close felt like a threat thst cpuld end yhe connectionso i always stopped short of it
We have sadly turned the ritual of life into the routine of existence.