Encouraging • Inspiring • Kind • Positive • Calm • Smart • Visionary • Supportive • Decisive • Fair

By defining precisely when we’re going to undertake a behavior, we reduce the amount of energy we have to expend to get it done. Often,

We’re far less likely to feel inspired by someone who says “Here’s what’s wrong with what you did” than we are by a more forward-looking “Here’s what works so far, and here’s what I think you need to do to take this to the next level.”

In order to move from one task to another, we must effectively tell ourselves, “I want to do this now instead of that.” This process is known as “goal shifting” or “task shifting.” It creates something called “switching time,” which is the increment of time it takes us to move from one source of focus to another.

Purpose represents a specific intention, a course of action, and an aim toward which we point ourselves.

We want to belong and be connected to others, but our survival instincts succeed only in pushing others away. In the process, we confirm our worst fears.

The safer and more valued people feel, the more resilient they are in the face of high demand and uncertainty.

The third key to building rituals is to focus on something we do rather than something we continually try to resist doing.

“What is he feeling, and how does that make sense?”